What Joe said early in this thread is correct regarding the temperature sensor. After the transmission warms up, it will shift into OD. With my 1995 truck, this takes only about 1-3 miles with air temperatures of 20 degrees or so.
Regarding shifting into neutral rather than park: The transmission pump doesn't run with the transmission in park. This is why you must shift into neutral to check the fluid level. Obviously, the fluid will heat up faster with the pump running, so shifting into neutral will help.
If you really, really trust your parking brake, shifting into drive will slip the torque converter and warm the fluid even faster, as suggested by JohnE.
My opinion is not to override the temperature sensor. I don't know why Dodge wants that fluid warm before it allows the shift into OD, but I suspect they did not install that sensor (at some expense) for no reason at all. Until I know why, I'd leave it alone.
Loren