Problem With Girlfriend....What do i do..?

[klenger]

We're not old. Who said we were old?

 

[XcumminsX]

Originally posted by JPLB22

Nick,



I am only 21 and as of last month I am engaged to be married this September. I have been with the same girl for 4 1/2 years now. When we first got together I was 17 and her 15, both going to the same H. S. . There is nothing wrong with spending the rest of your life with your highschool sweetheart.



Someone once told me that if you have to work to make a relationship work, than it ain't worth workin for. I now know that is totall B. S. , life is going to always be full of big and little trials. There is nothing you can do to stop it. Sooner or later everything has to be dealt with. And I don't believe there is a person out there that you will never have a disagreement with.



By your time table that you posted earlier there seems to be enough time for you to hit the weight room. Help get rid of some of that testosterone. The weight room is also a place of escape for me. That is definately one place where everything that is happening outside makes no difference to me whatsoever.



P. S. I have learned in a very short time how important and helpful the advice of older people can be. How very very important !!!



Good Luck !!!



Jeff

About the weight room. I am there alot 19 inch arms here 51 inch chest 33 inch waist 18 inch calf dont remember the rest

 

[MCummings]

That's awesome Jeff.



I won't be "engaged" for another year, and won't be married until a year after that. Seems like it's taking forever until you take a step back and look what has to be done before the marriage.



I think that all relationships will have some disagreements, it all depends on how you handle it. If you start screaming, throwing stuff and act like a 4 year old with tantrums and such, you aren't going to get anywhere. If you have a disagreement, be sure to talk about it in a civilized manner, without raised voices. No need for low blows either, if there is something in the past that hurt you, but you forgave them, Do NOT bring it back up! Forgive and forget! Be prepared to back down too, if it's something you want to do, or something you did, be sure to look at it from her point of view, and if need be, back down. Many arguments are caused by being hardheaded.



Not much else to say, except,, when is she going to help you work on your truck?



My g/f helped me remove the cam cover, motor mounts, and head from my truck a couple days ago,, that was cool.



Merrick

 

[JPLB22]

I didn't mean old as in geezer status ( whatever that may be ), just people with a few years and experience on me. For instance my Father just turned 49 in December also, and I rag him all the time about age, but he humbles me quite easily every time we step on to the raquette ball court.



Jeff

 

[Elite1]

"Shes the most beautiful girl in the world. I will get a pic and post it and i bet you will all post this ------> "



Wow... now I am waiting to see 2 pictures from this thread... One of Nick's GF, and a naughty one of 3atatime ! This could get interesting!

 

[Harley152]

If she was a keeper---she'd practice her cooking from 12:30 when you go to bed and 5:30 when you get up so you could have a nice robust breakfast before leaving for work and have your lunch packed and ready---after you leave for work she has time for a short nap before planning and executing a nice romantic dinner for when you return from a hard day's work!!!

Your job is to "provide, provide, provide---hers is to serve!!

After dinner she should serve you the beverage of your choice and allow you to relax and watch while she washes and polishes your truck!!!



Good luck!!!



Jerry

 

[PaulCreamer]

Harley152

You Nailed It!

Although your comments may have been tung and cheek,

I agree and am fortunate enough to have married a woman (22 years ago) who walks that walk. (I treat her like gold in appreciation). Some where along the line, people have lost those values and now the worlds a mess.

 

[snowracer69]

Harley,



That has got to be the single funniest thing I've read in a month! BWAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA... . I'm still laughing!!! On that note, I called my current g/f on Christmas day just after she was done eating dinner w/ her family... I asked what she was doing and she said "Helping my mom w/ the dishes in the kitchen. " Instantly I replied "oh, learning your place in life, huh?" expecting a "shut-up" or "very funny" reaction, but all I got was a "yeah, I guess I am. " I was like... . um LOL... . I guess maybe she's got it figured out already... .....

 

[3atatime]

Originally posted by XcumminsX

3atatime..... (edited what i was normally going to say because i dont want trouble for personal attacks as read per rules)... . Just do me a favor and never reply to any of my posts again...



Yes sir, because I always listen to a p***s! You just made it even more hilarious for me and oh I see, the "guys" can call you dumb and stuff, however they are right, and you thank them. I see how it is.

Kat

 

[Cumminsman]

Nick,

well, where to start. i'm with you on the truck thing. i pay for 2 of them and some VERY expensive insurance due to an SR-22. I work hard to pay for my things. but i am doing what i enjoy. been single for quite a while now. i'm 23 years old. when i was 17 i started dating a girl. and things were great. we were going to get married. things ended up not working out after 3 years. we never got married and i can look back now and i relize that it never would have worked out. but its cool now. broke my heart at the time and took a little while to get over her. the best thing that you can do in this situation IMO is wait the 4-5 years to get married and see if both of your views and priorities are still the same. if so i wish you the best of luck. if it turns out to be 1 of those lessons. some things you have to do yourself. and figure out on your own. well good luck. finish school and get a good job. everything will work out in the end. just treat her right. later, nick



3atatime,

you sound like a hell of a girl! and drives a cummins! hmmmmm! i have always appreciated someone speaking their mind! nick

 

[3atatime]

Thanks!!!!!!!!!

 

[Rob Thomas]

Originally posted by Cumminsman

3atatime,

you sound like a hell of a girl! and drives a cummins! hmmmmm! i have always appreciated someone speaking their mind! nick

Nothing like dumping nitro on the fire, just what she needs.

 

[dpuckett]

X,



Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, and a good girl to boot. Some guys get lucky early (and I DONT mean in that way- get your minds out of the gutter for another 2 minutes). [3, I dont need any replies to that. Remember, if not satsfied with the first run, rider is entitled to a reride ] Best of luck to ya. I wouldnt let anyone here tell you what to or not to do. We dont know your circumstances, or how the two of you get along. I will say to keep on your present course, DONT CHANGE FOR ANYONE BUT YOURSELF!!!! Had I heeded my own advice 6 years ago, I'd be in a totally different place. I was with my ex fiancee for 5 years; knew for 4 of those years she was THE ONE. We lived together for 4 of those years, and had started making plans to get married, where we'd live, what we'd do, when we'd finish school, etc, etc. We had tlaked about everything we could think of, and agreed on the important things. Then my legal bull ***** came along here in the swamp/ outhouse of the country (felony charges pressed by an old man that owns the prosecutor), and things just seemed to go downhill from there fast. I kept things to myself- didnt want to make my problems her problems- and would blow up at her for griping about some dummass at work or something I found really trivial. I got tired of reminding her of my stress, and she got tired of me being a harda$$.

Point being, if you decide to stay together, make sure you talk about things, every day, and while you dont have to agree on everything or every issue, at least know how you'll handle stuff that comes along. You seem to know what you want out of life, and dont be afraid to go after it. It also sounds like she may be a little more grown up than we gave her credit for on the first page.



And 3atatime, I know some feminazis get off by putting men "in their place," but go easy on the kid. I can name a dozen women who are the same way toward their men that you accuse most of us men as being to our women. And to think they put up with it. Are you from Arkansas or Kentucky? Those are the only two states I can think of where the women (from my generation) still wait hand and foot on their men, and take abuse from them, etc. I can get my own dam beer/ C&C, do my own laundry, cook my own food- better than you, I bet- and do anything else i need. Guess I dont need a woman after all. :-laf



Daniel

 

[Wayno]

Originally posted by dpuckett







And 3atatime, I know you feminazis get off by putting men "in their place," but go easy on the kid. I can name a dozen women who are emotionally abusive, extremely jealous of their men. And to think they put up with it. You must be from Arkansas or Kentucky. Those are the only two states I can think of where the women (from my generation) still wait hand and foot on their men, and take abuse from them, etc. I can get my own dam beer/ C&C, do my own laundry, cook my own food- better than you , I bet- and do anything else i need. Guess that leaves only one more thing I really need a woman for... ... Oh wait, God gave me two hands for that :-laf



Daniel

Uh oh , I bet the nice part is over now . Oh the he!! with nice part , go ahead and post that naughty pic. Kat

 

[Steve M]

A dozen??? Jeez, I can only name one.

 

[XcumminsX]

is 3atatime really pretty or something what are you all so worked up over with her posting pics... .

 

[Rob Thomas]

Originally posted by XcumminsX

is 3atatime really pretty or something what are you all so worked up over with her posting pics... .

She thinks she is.











Rob <... ... ... ... ..... runs for cover

 

[dpuckett]

Originally posted by XcumminsX

is 3atatime really pretty or something what are you all so worked up over with her posting pics... .

Yeah, some might call her hot, some not so hot. Havent seen all of her, so I cant make a fair judgement, but what I've seen fully clothed in this forum isnt bad.



Daniel

 

[XcumminsX]

hey guys i looked up her picture... . she is very pretty... shes mean to me though

 

[dpuckett]

Originally posted by Steve M

A dozen??? Jeez, I can only name one.

Ok, maybe only half a dozen. Ironic that four of them are in my ex's family

(I edited my above post to be a little nicer, yet still convey my idea, so as to avoid any reprimands, etc)



My money is on... ... . Larry. He has to have some battlefield experience; and being as old as he is, probably has some tricks up his sleeve. Sorry, Kat. Just dont think you got it this time.



X- that is because you have a Y chromosome; you are far from alone.



Daniel