Amazing! I killed it!
Just call me the thread-killer.
Nope...
You didn't kill it at all,just some of us are out doing other things.
Now...
As Forrest has already said,Torque can be your friend or it can break parts. The difference is application and most times that is directly related to your right foot,especially when towing. To get what your desiring(smoke limitation-good fuel mileage-power to tow)then your going to have to do alot of research and find a pump man your comfortable with. Torque application and smoke management will come,again as Forrest said,with camshaft and head work. The camshaft will allow the charger to spool up quicker and the port work will help make it efficient,both in airflow and egt reduction. Airflow efficiency will help you with one of your biggest concerns giving you the ability to make power comfortably with minimal egt concerns.
Turbo...
To do what you want you will need to find one that has the ability to light quick enough to limit lag-time and yet still be big enough to provide enough air to keep her cool. For a guy who does daily drive I still say a HX40/16 with a pinned compressor wheel and cover is one of the most under rated turbos out there. Long ago guys had problems with the HX40 blowing off front covers and loosing the compressor wheels due to over speeding them. IF you have a good shop build one and pin both the wheel and housing you will limit the chance of breakage. keep this charger under 40lbs of boost and it will provide years of service for you. Others which would fit the bill and be cost effective,most any smaller S300 frame charger and if you prefer the higher end deals,Turbonetics and Garrett both have great roller-ball chargers that will work fine. best thing to tell you is set a budget and then decide. I run a Garrett GT37R Stage 3 and it is costly but have performed flawlessly for me.
Pump-injectors...
I didn't want to go here but I will don my flame suit for the incoming as I know it will here because of the many schools of thought and those who believe in the free mods over a good pump man. To have your truck make power to tow and limit the smoke I recommend you have it removed and sent to a pump shop. They will talk with you about your combo and discuss what they feel would provide you with the best setup for you to do what you want. I do realize that there are many,many over the counter parts available and many free mods,but,once you have had a good pump shop do your pump you will never screw with yours again. They can set the pump up to come in as aggressively as you want or not and have the fuel application set how you want it. After having mine done with over the counter parts once and then having one gone over by a reputable shop there was a night and day difference in my truck in how it drove,smoked and how the power was utilized throughout the rpm band.
Your injector of choice should be discussed when your pump is being done. There are so many flavors out there,some good-some bad,and you need to have them to be able to fit your combo. After all,if your serious about what you want why throw any old injector into a deal where you have already had someone do work. It all has to be considered,cam,head work and pump work to make your injector give you the best bang for the buck. If you don't then all you end up with is a smoke show and alot of heat and trust me when I say I have been there and done that and its not a T-Shirt I want to get another one of.
In closing,Only you know what you want and you need to consider which is the best way to fit your needs. Many here can lead you in different directions and some of those directions will have you end up with spending money twice. My recommendation is find a pump shop,chat with them and then begin to lay out your plans accordingly. (sounds like a broken record). HP is one thing,TQ is another and to get them both efficient and limit smoke and heat is called tuning and what good is that without the first basic step... your pump shop.
I have spent enough money twice on my truck to show you a pile of receipts large enough to have a bonfire with. IF I would have gone to my pump man up front and first,then some of my stupid purchases would have been limited and that money could have been utilized for other parts. So now as I go back and replace some of what parts have already been bought I have realized at how much more I could have had if I would have listened early on and not been so bullheaded... ... . Andy