75/140 or 85/140 is the better choice IMO.
It is just tougher to shear a thicker lube from between the gear faces under harsh conditions like higher HP bombed trucks or towing. As the gears rotate and mesh together the thinner oils are slung off and squeezed out easier and the lubrication of the moving parts begin to rely on barrier lubrication and additives more than the oil itself.
Guys with standard transmissions that bang gears and shock load the axle harder can add to the shearing effect of the thinner oils as well.
Rear axles are not like engines that wear during start-up. Generally, guys dont get the truck running and instantly accellerate to 100 miles per hour. Further, a 75/90 lube has the same viscosity of a 30 weight engine oil. Too thin IMO and this is why the manufacturer asks us to use the thicker lubes for towing.
Any brand of quality lube like Royal Purple, Redline, LE, etc wil do the trick and not harm warranty coverage.
Don~