I'm going to start off by saying that I'm not a perfect expert on this situation, but do have some valuable info. I'm sure there will be other opinions.
I drive commercial trucks with the 8. 3l Cummins and Pacbrake exhaust brakes. We have many of them that have exactly the same problems you describe here. For a while, our mechanics did what you said. They took them apart, cleaned them, and put them back together. They worked for a while, then quit again. Some wouldn't engage, some wouldn't disengage. The truck I drive was one that fell victim to this. The owner of my company called the dealership where he bought the trucks and they were of no help. Apparently they had heard the story before and didn't know how to deal with it. There's nothing you can do was the best they could say.
A few years ago I was telling this story here on the TDR when the then warranty manage of Pacbrake (Harold) read the thread and offered his help to my boss. I put them in touch with one another and some interesting things happened. I found out that Harold admitted to my boss that they produced a bad batch of exhaust brakes. They didn't use enough nickle in the metal casting of the exhaust elbow which causes this problem. However, the company, of course, doesn't want the word to get out, lest they have to pay for replacements/repairs. Harold did, however, work out a deal with my boss where he sent us 2 new replacement units and we sent back 2 bad ones so that Pacbrake could examine them in their lab. The two new units worked fine, but then Pacbrake stopped sending us replacements. My boss was happy with the 2 new ones, but unhappy that no more replacements were coming. Harold has since moved on from Pacbrake and I'm told that my boss got nowhere with his replacement. Our shop has disconnected the control wires from the defective Pacbrakes and we simply do without them.
It would be nice to have them, but I guess Pacbrake doesn't want the business or good press that making us whole would have provided.
I'm sure there are guys out there that have found ways to fix theirs, but this is my experience.
Good luck.