Just researching a little more on this today I found this excerpt from AllPar... which sounds pretty straight forward compared to much of the reading I've done over the years. Seems like when I did my NV4500 lube change a few years back I used Amsoil 75W90 Series 2000 (or maybe 3000). I do know it was blue. I'm going to change the lube in the 99 3500 at work and was looking at using Amsoil MTG 75W90... or Royal Purple MaxGear 75W85.
So, the NV4500 is a given; use any high quality 75W85 GL-4 Synthetic Gear Oil. Items such as Mobil 1 Synthetic, Castrol Syntorq, or Valvoline Synpower will all do the job nicely. But be warned, the spec is for GL-4 lubricant, NOT the commonly available GL-5 that we've all been using in our front and rear axles these past few years.
API (American Petroleum Institute Classification) GL-4 (Gear Lubricant-4) contains about half the additives of GL-5. Higher concentration of Extreme Pressure additives in GL-5 gear oils may cause the softer metals, such as copper, brass and bronze – which make up the shift synchronizers of a manual transmission - to suffer premature wear / failure. So, stick with the specified GL-4 classification, in any of your favorite synthetic brands.