Brian, I wish your news had been better bud, but at least you are not in an immediate emergency situation. You have time for planning and consultations with other docs, which can be tremendously valuable.
One thing to keep in mind is that you can have your biopsy slides sent out to other institutes for a 2nd opionion, I have heard that the Armed Forces (Air Force?) Pathology labs will do 2nd opinions, so will big clinics like Mayo and some of the big pathology labs. It doesn't cost much and can give you some very valuable info.
Something important to do right off the bat: get copies of ALL of your files, biopsy reports, x-rays and such, and have them ready so you can take them where you want to. It's a pain in the butt having to deal with the bureaucracy of getting them when you are already hassling with other things, but having those records could save your life. Why? Because believe it or not, doctors and hospitals are NOT obligated to keep your records for the long term, many of them dispose of them after as little as 5 years.
Good luck bud, I hope things go well with you!