These NP205's are sticky SOBs. My Ramcharger's 203 I can shift with one finger, but my diesel's 205 more often takes a little bit of muscle. Sometimes you have better luck unlocking the hubs first, then popping the transfer case out of 4wd. It also helps to be rolling when you shift (DON'T ROLL AND SHIFT OUT OF 4 LOW!!!). Just let off the brakes and as it starts rolling push forward and toward the steering wheel until it pops. If that doesn't work tap the accelerator a little bit to help relieve the pressure against those gears. If that still won't do it, often times doing it in reverse is easier than forward. In either case, if you go too far and hit neutral on the transfer case, if you have an automatic transmission, you'll need to shut it off to get it back in gear unless your rolling at least 10mph.
My buddy was a little dissappointed going from his Ramcharger to his diesel at how hard they are to shift sometimes. He soaked the shifter linkage in WD40 every day for a week, then covered it in some heavy weight grease. It helped a little, but its still just a hard t-case to muscle.