A lot of us have run over the GVWRs and GCWRs of Ram trucks in the past and some still do. If you want to hang your hat on a number, use the max weight rating of your tires. Calculating the max ratings on brakes, suspension, and axles is a leetle harder. Personally, there are other factors besides dead weight. Tall, heavy (maybe some top heavy), winds, grade, curves, and speed start adding other elements to consider. Heck, here in TX, I've seen a Ram pull a 12ft x 60ft mobile home. And I don't think there is any enforcement either. I never got stopped towing 8K lbs over GCWR and just a couple thousand pounds over on the GCWR.
Good luck with you decision(s).
Cheers, Ron