I feel really stupid, I was looking to move a mountain and all it was, was a molehill! I should have, but I didn't check all the fuses in the fuse panel, I checked the fuse panel cover and thought it can't be any of these little things.
I did check the fuses in the PDC though and they were ok. I was sure it was going to be a fusiable link, relay or the ESS.
My mechanic said always start with the little stuff first. While I was looking to find PCM, ESS and Solenoid etc in the FSM, he was checking the fuses. It turned out the be the 10A Engine fuse. That little fuse stopped my shutoff solenoid rod from staying up, wouldn't charge, no tach, no speedometer, no wait to start, no intake heater grids, no cruise control and trans in limp mode - 3rd gear only.
I'm sorry to put you guys through all this trouble, but I thank you a million for helping me!
Ed