Women

[Cummins Pilot]

OK, heres the age old question. What goes on in a womens head? 3. 5 years of dating and it ends about a month ago cause she has "issues" in her head.



Some of the "problems"

1. I work to much/hard. (trying to pay my way through school and pay the bills, sorry, my parents didn't buy everything for me)



2. I didn't listen to her and change the way she wanted me to become fast enough I guess. (hello, man=mountain, can't move the mountain with one pass of a dozer).



3. ?????



Sorry had to rant. Going to miss that girl, I wanted to marry her.



So now I'm single again.

 

[XJSuperman]

I apologize if this seems blunt. . but why did she stay with you 3. 5 years if she wanted to "change" you?



I believe every person needs to "change" something about him/herself... but those changes should NEVER be ones that dictate whether you;re with someone or not.

If there's something about your 'significant' other is bad enough that you want to change them or leave... you should not have been with them in the first place ... unless they developed something bad over time and it wasn;t present at the onset of the relationship.



Sorry this happened to you I know it sucks.

 

[GFritsch]

It hurts, but better now then latter, especially if there were going to be kids in the future. One day you will find the gal that will make you glad this happened.



Greg

 

[barbwire]

I have now spent 30 yrs. with the same woman, and I have come to the conclusion that not even THEY know what they want!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Headshot zod]

like my grandfather who told my dad who told me who told you... ... ... .



"Women are like trolleys... ..... there will be another one by in about 8 minutes".



I went out with a girl from age 16/17 to 24... . we smartened up and didn't get married. I'm 37 now and she is still my best friend and we (including her husband, who is a great guy and her kid still go out to dinner when she comes up from GA. to visit her folks.



Yeah it sucks bigtime and it takes a while for the next one who could be "the one" to more or less measure up and its time consuming, but it isn't the end of the world... . And every May 4th we still celebrate our "anti-anniversary". I even got my MOSSBERG 590 military version back without it being pointed at me first



Now recently somebody here got married and on the way back from the ceremony I think... as they were riding in the cummins she took his cowboy hat put it on and said "I finally got my diesel and the cowboy that came with it isn't too bad either". So could somebody explain to me why we are cloning cats and dogs when a gal like that is floating around??????

 

[Cummins Pilot]

She wasn't trying to change me really. I just didn't do the little things for her that shows them that you truly love them. She was trying to tell me and teach me what she needed from me. I thought that driving us everywhere, paying for 90% of the activities, getting her own shotgun ect was enough. I rarely did little things like get her a card that says I love you for no reason, call her in the middle of the day to tell her I'm thinking of her. Basically things that every women wants from her guy. I thought big things were worth big points, in reality everything you do for them is only worth one point regaurdless of how big or how small.



I was slowly changing, very slowly but I was changing. Just not fast enough I guess. + this was her first serious relationship, her other one was about 2 weeks. So I think she doesn't realize how it all really works. I know I don't.

 

[MCummings]

I thought big things were worth big points, in reality everything you do for them is only worth one point regaurdless of how big or how small.

Ain't that the truth!



Merrick

 

[klenger]

Sort of like the old saying we had at work, " one aw-crap wipes out all of your ata-boys. "

 

[ToolManTimTaylor]

one aw-crap wipes out all of your ata-boys.

Ladies and Gentelmen God Has spoken

 

[Rhondasway]

I thought big things were worth big points, in reality everything you do for them is only worth one point regaurdless of how big or how small.

I see you've been reading... It's a shame that you lost this girl you love because of what seems like little things, but it sure looks like you're trying hard to learn and improve yourself. I think that in relationships it's natural to not only change ourselves to improve compatibility, but to cause changes in our partners as well.

That being said, you also need to realize that not all women are the same. As individuals some may want jewelry but not care how much time you spend with them, while others may want all of your time regardless of your other commitments; some want marriage and kids while others want more freedom; some want you to get rid of "that stinky truck", while others want one of their own. Decide for yourself the style that works best for you.

It is possible to love someone who's not ideal for you, but I think the key is to find someone that it's just easy with. Give that girl the benefit of what you've learned from past experiences. She's out there, and right now she's emailing her girlfriend about her ex-boyfriend who sits around all day with no plans for the future, and gives her cliche gifts that don't really mean anything... When you get her, you'll know about "the little things".

Good luck.

 

[GIT-R-DONE]

paying for 90% of the activities, getting her own shotgun

Did you get to keep the shotgun? :-laf :-laf



Just kidding with ya man... ...



Sorry about the little woman, but ya know , all things happen for a reason and this just might be one of them. Kinda like Garth Brooks Song 'Unanswered Prayers'. Good Luck and move on and enjoy life for yourself, someone will come along when you least expect it.

 

[XJSuperman]

As for the little things... a lot of women it seems don't consider the little things cards, candy, flowers etc to be that important... especially after a few years of marriage... all I ever get with a card or some 'little' thing is a verbal thankyou.

BUT... do the dishes, vacuum, do some laundry... do the things that even just 20 years ago were considered "womens' work" and you'd be surprised at the response.

Now I'm not saying don't do the cards and little notes etc... BUT if she was concerned enough with just those small things after 3. 5 years of being together (married or not) to leave you because of them... then I think she needs to change as well.

 

[ARedetzke]

Women are like parking spots: All the good ones are taken, and the rest are handicapped.

 

[Bob Wagner]

I found this in the tdr reader's rig, should be posted here :-laf





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[GIT-R-DONE]

Women are like parking spots: All the good ones are taken, and the rest are handicapped.

:-laf :-laf :-laf

 

[Rhondasway]

LMAO at Bob! :-laf

 

[Cummins Pilot]

You caught that I had been reading Rhonda.



I always thought that as long as someone is willing to learn and try to improve on their short comings it would work. But I guess it only works if both sides are willing to put in the effort. I was, she wasn't. I can't shake the feeling of it being a shame that we wasted what was a great relationship otherwise. It fustrates me that I can't do anything about it. I'm not used to not being able to fix things.

 

[Rhondasway]

Tyler, it is frustrating when you can't fix things, but I would not consider those years to be "wasted" time. You never know what the future will bring; maybe reconciliation, maybe not. You must have had some very good times, and certainly got to learn a lot.

At any rate, just the fact that you are self-aware shows good character so keep your chin up and go do some things for yourself.

 

[Little Bill]

Women ... Can't live with them, can't have natural sex without them. A genuine catch 22.

 

[Boomer II]

Dammit man, you didn't say you lost a shotgun in the deal, now this is serious!!

You don't need to jump back in another relationship, take some time and learn what it is to be happy by yourself, then you will have a happy person to offer to, hopefully, a happy lady that will love you for who and what you are. Geeze, do I sound like Abby or what? Now, about that shotgun.